Sunday, July 17, 2005

Children Are a Blessing: Part1

I'm not the only mom walking around with more children than most can remember the names of who routinely hears, "Are all of these yours?," "Boy! You have your hands full!," "Don't you know what stops that?," "Haven't you figured out what causes that?," "You've got to be out of your mind!," "Better you than me," "Maybe you oughta take up watching t.v.," "Didn't you have other hobbies?," And the list goes on and on and on...

Now that I'm doing the whole single mom thing, I find myself hearing all sorts of things that are even more shocking than before. Seeing me with five children in tow, complete strangers, after asking if all of the children are mine, will ask if they all have the same father. This is most often asked in front of my children (who all have the same father). One man once joked (and it wasn't the least bit funny) that he could see why my husband would seek a way out of the madness of a home full of rugrats. Of course, there are times when such comments are infuriating, but for the most part such comments are far from shocking. "Why?," some may ask... Well, generally, people do not see children as a blessing. The general view of children is that one or two children is more than enough for anyone and that children are a burden.

Over the next few weeks, I'll be posting more on the weblog concerning my experience with children, why I believe children are a blessing and not a burden and why and how I believe that people should change their attitudes toward children.

I'm looking forward to writing more and reading the feedback from readers. Thanks to all of you who encourage me, give feedback, and cheer me on in this journey of life I'm on.


Blogger Mary Magdaline said...

You're not alone. I was a single parent for many years (that's over in less than two weeks!). Even though I only have one child, people still have said and asked the rudest things. "Why do you want to know?" was a response I used that would prevent further questioning. I'd also go through a list of answers to questions they hadn't asked, and fast enough to let them know this was a common tirade that annoyed me. They got the point.

Keep your chin up, up, up! Children are indeed a blessing, and yours are being blessed by having you as their single parent.

9:19 PM, July 27, 2005  
Blogger Erin said...

You seem so full of grace toward others. You refer to the rude comments as merely "annoying" or "rude" whereas if I were in your situation I would blow up in a fit of rage at the assumptions of people. I admire you for that. I look forward to Part 2!

1:13 AM, July 28, 2005  
Anonymous Melsh said...

You're Children are blessed because they have one of the best Mom's on earth!

5:28 PM, August 05, 2005  

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